My Remnants feeling for Cochin

My joy was boundless when my project manager anoop joy told I am getting released on dec 31 2010, I was very happy, as I have been asking for release almost for couple of months and finally the date has dawned on me.

Almost a year and half I have been in cochin(1.4 to be precise),when my training got over in Bangalore I never thought I would get posting in cochin in fact I never knew until that point that Wipro had a office in cochin itself, When I broke this news to my family my father was glad, like everyone he too had a assumption that Kerala (god’s own country) is a beautiful place lots of landscape, scenery view , picture perfect locations even I too had the same idea but every thing changed within a week once I came to cochin.

Cochin a night mare place to live in for bachelors, you don’t have much of cool joint to hang out you have very few malls in fact only once decent mall in entire Cochin (i.e. Oberon mall), one major problem is the food if you a veggie like me then you’re a dead duck here for sure you don’t have many decent pakka veg restaurants in cochin. The transportation is poor in Cochin, you have red colored private buses that are primarily used for transportation. The buses are plight for the passengers boarding for the first time and also for the people walking on the road, if you want to commit a suicide there is no better option than walking on the Kerala road I am sure one moment or the other you will be surely hit by the red bus and coupled with the roads I guess Kerala is only state I have known to have there own definition of highway, they have highways which is hardly twenty feet width and normally width usually is forty feet. One thing for sure I really hated this place if there is a hell I knew I lived well that would be Cochin.

But after I heard the news of my transfer as I said I was in a state of euphoria and some where down my heart I felt bit sorry for leaving this city, when you be In a place for certain period of time you become a part of the habitat, your habit changes, you try to become a part of the habitat which is present, the changes which you made to yourself to get adapt to the new place have to be undone guess I am having the problem after staying away from family for such a long time getting used to the feel of the place, now to leave the place where I made some good friends it bit difficult.

I have a lot of good memories down here which I would always carry throughout my life a song that you would like to hymn in a good mood.

A penny for your thoughts

Interesting quote from the movie, "Why did I get married?"

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.
Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: "I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . .."
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have..
But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? "They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!"

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that... Forget about what the world says is first class.. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

Quarter-life Crisis

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or teo,but them get scared because you barely know where you are now.

you start realizing that people are selfish and that,maybe ,those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too,and aren't really cold,catty,mean or insincere, but that thaey are as confused as you.

You look at your job..and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger.You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundries in your life and are constantly adding hings to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.One minute, you are insecure and then the next,secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.You feel alone and scared and confused.suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soonrealize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay when you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better,or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't bad person.Geting wasted and acting like an idiot atarts look pathetic.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.You worry about loans,money,the future and making a life for yourself..and while winning the race would be great,right now you'd just like to be a contender.

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.we are in our best of times and our worst of times,trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

We call it as "Quarte-life Crisis.