The Train Girl

It was “THE MOMENT” of my life she called out my name and was on her knees in the middle of the railway station, at that moment everything went bizarre for me didn’t know how to react, at the same time everything about her flashed in front of me like Ms PowerPoint slide show like her dimples, how I met? How our conversation started?

Well it all started when I boarded train no 6042 chennai-allepey express, something are peculiar in the kerala state, one can board the reservation compartment with an unreserved ticket and occupy the reserved passenger seat, so when I boarded the damn train I found my seat being occupied by her, I was in to dilemma whether to ask her to leave the seat or share the seat with her (well I don’t mind sharing my seat with a girl)

But still it was my seat I reserved it so I asked her “this is my seat can you please get up”, she did that and I happily sat in my window seat as train started to move out of station I started to plan what I have to do after reaching to Chennai and was also thinking about the events that happened thought the day, as I turned my head to get a better glimpse of the girl there was some similarity I felt as if I meet this her earlier I thought of asking her “have we meet before?” but It would have been a cliché dialogue that a guy always ask towards a girl, so I controlled my urge to ask the question. After some time she asked me whether she can keep her luggage under my seat I sensed this as a nice opportunity to strike a conversation but the train was too crowded and I could she from her face that she was really pissed off for making her get from my seat so I said ok I don’t mind keeping her luggage under my seat and then I asked he “Where are you going” she then told me she is going to thissur(a wealthy town in kerala).As the train started to move out of station I was slowing slipping in to state of semi sleep finally the train pulled over to thissur.

I was looking for the girl she was no where to be seen but her luggage was still under my seat for a second I got scared whether there might be a bomb in the bag and could blow of any min as it comes in bollywood movie ‘a Wednesday’ fortunately she came took her luggage went and sat behind me which I didn’t notice as I got up to buy water bottle I noticed her and I asked her “your station has arrived” and that moment she told me she was going to Chennai, well I thought what ever and carried on my usual business.

It was almost time for me to go to sleep, so I wanted to switch off the light since I wasn’t getting sleep because of the light I got to switch of the light I saw her sitting and reading tinkle (kinder garden stuff) I asked whether I could switch off the lights she said its fine, I was about to switch off the light then suddenly I felt an urge to ask her the same old cliché question and this time I had a courage to ask her so I asked “Are you working in *****?” and cursed myself asking that question since there was no way she could be working there in the same office as I am if we did we could have bumped in to each other as my office is not a huge one, but to my surprise she sad yes and she working there but unfortunately she was working for the same company in Chennai branch and recently quit the company for various reason and after I introduced myself and she told me her name what she is doing now, as the train started moving in to late night so did our conversation grew lately.

As our conversation grew she told me she was going to friend’s marriage that was happening in Chennai after some time we exchanged the numbers, and that’s how my friendship started with the train girl.

As the time passed away we used to meet, become fast friends if at all I meet a meanest, sweetest girl it has to be her we used to go to our hometowns by the same train but on one fine Friday evening she was there on her knees in ottapalyam railway station , that day before I started I called her several times she didn’t pick he mobile I got anxious first then thought she might be busy so I went to railway station even I couldn’t find her there, so when the station stopped at her ottapalyam railway station her home town I got down from the train I was waiting for her thought she would bump in to me but never expected she would be falling on her knees as she got down from the train and started walking on the station she saw me got surprised didn’t watch her stepped on the banana and fell on her knees. That moment was “The Moment” of my life I find it comical I never knew a girl would fall for in literal sense.

My Remnants feeling for Cochin

My joy was boundless when my project manager anoop joy told I am getting released on dec 31 2010, I was very happy, as I have been asking for release almost for couple of months and finally the date has dawned on me.

Almost a year and half I have been in cochin(1.4 to be precise),when my training got over in Bangalore I never thought I would get posting in cochin in fact I never knew until that point that Wipro had a office in cochin itself, When I broke this news to my family my father was glad, like everyone he too had a assumption that Kerala (god’s own country) is a beautiful place lots of landscape, scenery view , picture perfect locations even I too had the same idea but every thing changed within a week once I came to cochin.

Cochin a night mare place to live in for bachelors, you don’t have much of cool joint to hang out you have very few malls in fact only once decent mall in entire Cochin (i.e. Oberon mall), one major problem is the food if you a veggie like me then you’re a dead duck here for sure you don’t have many decent pakka veg restaurants in cochin. The transportation is poor in Cochin, you have red colored private buses that are primarily used for transportation. The buses are plight for the passengers boarding for the first time and also for the people walking on the road, if you want to commit a suicide there is no better option than walking on the Kerala road I am sure one moment or the other you will be surely hit by the red bus and coupled with the roads I guess Kerala is only state I have known to have there own definition of highway, they have highways which is hardly twenty feet width and normally width usually is forty feet. One thing for sure I really hated this place if there is a hell I knew I lived well that would be Cochin.

But after I heard the news of my transfer as I said I was in a state of euphoria and some where down my heart I felt bit sorry for leaving this city, when you be In a place for certain period of time you become a part of the habitat, your habit changes, you try to become a part of the habitat which is present, the changes which you made to yourself to get adapt to the new place have to be undone guess I am having the problem after staying away from family for such a long time getting used to the feel of the place, now to leave the place where I made some good friends it bit difficult.

I have a lot of good memories down here which I would always carry throughout my life a song that you would like to hymn in a good mood.

A penny for your thoughts

Interesting quote from the movie, "Why did I get married?"

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.
Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: "I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . .."
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have..
But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? "They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!"

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that... Forget about what the world says is first class.. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

Quarter-life Crisis

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or teo,but them get scared because you barely know where you are now.

you start realizing that people are selfish and that,maybe ,those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too,and aren't really cold,catty,mean or insincere, but that thaey are as confused as you.

You look at your job..and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger.You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundries in your life and are constantly adding hings to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.One minute, you are insecure and then the next,secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.You feel alone and scared and confused.suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soonrealize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay when you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better,or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't bad person.Geting wasted and acting like an idiot atarts look pathetic.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.You worry about loans,money,the future and making a life for yourself..and while winning the race would be great,right now you'd just like to be a contender.

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.we are in our best of times and our worst of times,trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

We call it as "Quarte-life Crisis.